A Violent Femme’s View – Less Than Perfect
“Pretty pretty please, don’t you ever ever feel
Like you’re less than f*ckin’ perfect
Pretty pretty please, if you ever ever feel like you’re nothing
You’re f*ckin’ perfect to me!”
As @BigSnakeMan did a few weeks ago, I feel compelled to go off topic for this week’s View.
Note: This is going to be a huge downer, but I think it’s important. You’ve been warned.
I realize there aren’t a lot of teenagers that probably read my posts. But there are people who have teenage children and people who have teenage siblings or friends. Teenagers, they’re everywhere, right? I wish I could say that right now.
In the last month, my 19 year old son has gotten to see his mug (not an ugly one, mind you) in slide shows of various stages of his life. The reason? Funerals. First one of his cousins, then another, ages 17 and 19, who he has grown up with, decided to take their own lives. They were from opposite sides of my family, and had never met, maybe with the possible exception of my son’s birthday party years ago.
The first time this happened, a month ago, my son sobbed his heart out. When he had to don his funeral garb again this week, he was stoic. I don’t think he had much more left to give. His heart, at least in part, is broken. Not to mention mine, my husband’s and our collective families.
As often happens with cousins, my son hadn’t seen either one of these guys at much length the last few years. You get busy, you get high school, you get girlfriends…it happens. But you have the hope of reconnecting. That’s gone.
For Conor and Kevin, sweet, beautiful boys both – something to them was so unspeakably wrong with their lives that they felt life should end. They were wrong. I know both of them loved their parents. They would be crushed to see the irreparable damage they’ve done to these wonderful people.
Please, please, encourage your friends, children, family members to TALK to someone if they are considering such a step. Please let them know they’re not alone. Please let them know they are not less than perfect. Please encourage them to get help. Please watch them like hawks to see any tell tale signs.
Leaving your family bereft is not a solution to anything.
Remember, everyone is nothing less than perfect to someone.
Now back to PocketDoppler.com’s usual sports related programming.